Thoughts About the Lifestyle
As this is my first Domme/sub relationship I have had some serious thoughts about it, first of all why have I never felt this at ease in any of my other relationships and I have come to the conclusion that I AM naturally a sub, because even in my relatively few number of one night stands and when I was engaged I could never be my self because as a "general rule" the man is expected to take the lead in the bedroom and I'm afraid that is just not me.
As a Dom/me it would be easy to satisfy your needs particularly in the bedroom with simple requests i.e. could you do this or that, however as a sub it is a little bit harder because I feel it isn't the social norm to ask things that as a sub I like i.e. could you grab me by the head and fuck my face, somehow I don't think that this is appropriate bedtalk for the average person.
The second thing that I have thought about is what makes a sub a sub, I feel that in my particular case it is the simple fact that I get more enjoyment from seeing or knowing that I am making my Mistress happy than from getting any pleasure myself and since my Mistress knows this she also knows that she could get me to do ANYTHING, which leads me onto my next thought and this is the one which I have been having trouble to quantitate.
What makes a Dom/me a Dom/me and so far all that I can come up with is a Dom/me is someone who takes pleasure in having total control over someone, now I also believe that a good Dom/me would never abuse that ability that they have over their sub, because I believe that a true sub will do anything for their Dom/me (I know I will).
Feel free to post any comments or your views upon these thoughts.